It seems like it would be so easy, and yet it’s something that proves so hard. It’s way too easy to focus on the negative rather than all that is going well and all of the good around us. My son’s team lost their little league baseball game this week. It was the playoffs; they were one win away from going to the championship game. After the loss, at first, I was upset. I was frustrated with several calls by the umpires and how poorly the manager of the other team spoke to us. Just a very poor showing of sportsmanship. […]

“Making everybody a winner means nobody has to learn from losing. And let me tell you, losing is what makes winning fantastic.” “Removing the struggles, the failure, and the barriers does two things in the long run: It weakens people, and it takes away the meaning of joy from their lives…” “Life has more discomfort than comfort. But that’s what makes the highs of life feel so fantastic.”  These are small excerpts from Arnold Schwarzenegger’s weekly blog. I love his perspective. I also can’t help to think that some of what we are seeing in society today is due to making […]

As a household, we’re very cautious with technology and too much screen time for our kids. We’ve seen how they change when they’re on their tablets, video games, and in front of the computer too long. Their attitudes and actions are just simply not the same. So, as a household, we’ve made the conscious decision to limit screen time and not allow much at all. While I am certain that’s the best decision for their health, at the same time I’m conflicted. You do not want your children to get behind in the world of technology. You do not want them […]

“She is in a lot of pain,” he said. “On so many different drugs that she can’t eat and just doesn’t feel normal.” “When was she diagnosed? What happened?” I asked. “We were at this flea market, and she kept fainting. So, we went into the emergency room, and they saw the tumor. ‘Stage 4 colon cancer. But now it has moved into her liver,” he shared, starting to cry. Tim and Sue have been clients for a very long time. Good friends, great people. This is not supposed to happen to them. As we spoke more throughout the evening, there was a sense […]

Have you ever called someone that you thought you had a good relationship with, only to not have them never return the call at all? Call after call. Months after months, they never call back or even respond. But finally, Joshua called me back. “Dude, where have you been?” I answered the phone when I saw his name on my caller ID. “I thought either I was getting fired or would have to pay a death claim!” “I am so sorry, Jeremy,” he said. “I know I’ve owed you a call for a while now.” I assured him that I […]

One week ago, a dear friend of mine‘s son attempted suicide. Incredibly sad. But I’m also incredibly thankful and fortunate that he didn’t succeed. In debriefing with one of our mutual friends on what happened, we began talking about all the pressure that these young people must feel. It must be even more as they’re just getting ready to start out in the world as young adults. Perhaps that pressure comes in the form of seeing the success of their parents and feeling, “How am I going to accomplish the same?” That hopelessness of inadequacy is probably even more pressing in […]

“There are three things that grow more precious with age; old wood to burn, old books to read, and old friends to enjoy.” – Henry Ford This week, I had the pleasure of seeing three of my old friends. While I don’t see them often enough, I truly value each of them and we definitely have history together. I’ve known each of them for more than 30 years. We all started in business together at different times and different places. But, somehow, these relationships haven’t changed. While distance has kept us apart, somehow, time has actually brought us even closer. I guess […]

The last couple of days, I’ve had the pleasure of playing in a golf tournament with a dear friend. Man, competition feels so good! Now, I am not good enough or skilled enough to win the event. But I love the feeling of just competing, trying to be my best, pushing myself, striving to win. And golf is such a beautiful game because it leads me to focus so intensely, in a way that I can only focus for short periods. As a society, in so many ways, we have forgotten that. In some ways we have adapted a “win at […]

I read something interesting in the Wall Street Journal a while ago: “The theologian Paul Tillich wrote about the difference between fear and anxiety. Fear is of something, you can name it and face it, and in the facing of it lift your own morale, show yourself what’s in you. Anxiety is amorphous; it doesn’t quite have an object, it’s a state. And so, it’s harder to shake and no empowering necessarily comes from it. A lot of people this year will have to break down a generalized anxiety into specific fears and deal with them courageously.” That clarity got […]

“We like you and we trust you,” Roger said to me. “It’s just so hard for us to let our advisor go,” Sally added. “He’s a friend. He knows us. But he has not taken good care of us, and he knows the way we feel.” “What would you do, Jeremy?” they asked. I thought about it for a moment. I empathized with them. They were in a truly difficult position – one we all find ourselves in at some time: a conflict between social convention and avoiding those uncomfortable conversations versus doing what is clearly best for us. And yet, the answer was […]